Some of the things you may be feeling: stuck and trapped in your marriage internal conflict feeling spiritually dead you need “space” from your spouse and alone time marriage counseling has gotten you nowhere fantasizing about or having emotional and/or physical affair fearof the unknown, heading down a path into the fog feeling you need a plan of action, but too overwhelmed to know...
This site nor my practice are “pro-divorce” as some people assume by the name. DivorceWise is about having wisdom at a time when you find yourself in marital distress or contemplating the end of your marriage. It is not a time for rash decisions, but for contemplation, information gathering, and professional help. Can your marriage be saved? What should we do? Do people really work through these types of things? Is there a way to have an amicable divorce? How will this impact the kids? These are the questions that everyone explores when there is a marital crisis.
Many people say “If I didn’t have kids, it would have been over a long time ago.” But it is not necessarily an easy decision to divorce, even if you do not have children. If there are children involved, it is critical that parents be mindful and wise about their choices. Many lives are at stake and if the unhealthy dynamics or issues in the marriage can be resolved, it is likely what is best for the family and the individuals in the family. Hopefully, both partners are willing to do the type of work that this takes and yet knowing what to do at a time like this is not something that comes easily. Emotions and tensions are usually running high, both partners tend to get into a place of fear, and things can spiral out of control quickly, impacting everyone, and particularly children. It is critical to be wise when contemplating divorce.
Whether you are in marital distress, are contemplating separation, have recently decided to divorce, or have completed the divorce process, there are many concerns, fears, and goals on your mind, no doubt. Getting accurate information about your options, along with clarity and awareness, are the keys to getting through this phase of your life and moving on to a more peaceful time. I can assess your needs, help you sort things out and
determine a practical course of action. It may be marriage counseling, individual therapy, determining ways to better work with your co-parent, or participating in a support group – it just depends on what you are going through and what makes sense to you. The first step is to set up an appointment so I can learn more about you and your situation and so that you can begin to get professional support from an expert in these areas.